pin-it party and a day off…

hello again, pin-it party friends!  if this is your first time joining us, welcome!  i am sure that you will find many great things here!  i have been saying hello this way for some time now, but it never gets old, b/c there are always new visitors!  πŸ™‚  so, welcome!!!!  and if you have been coming back week after week, thank you!!!!   

one of last saturday’s most-viewed pins was this one, ‘a day of freedom, from cassandra of raising up stones.  i love this.  cassandra has consecrated her sundays back to God and has been adopting a day off from the ever-calling world of social media!  you go, mama!  i’m on your heels.  with my hubby home on the weekends, i generally try to steer clear of the internet anyway, but now that i am finally a smartphone owner, i can see that all of those little ‘hangouts’ are even easier to engage myself in at a moment’s notice.  

about a year ago, i started getting a lot of heat from family members, b/c i let go of my phone more…i let my kids misplace it more often, i left it on the bedside table until lunchtime, i left it in the car while shopping or dining out with my husband and kids.  i heard quite a few remarks about being ‘hard to get ahold of’, but you know what?  i don’t want to be attached to my cell, and i don’t want to be attached to facebook, instagram, twitter, or gmail either.  i want to be attached to my husband, and my girls.  period.  so, i am going to disengage on sundays too, cassandra.  thanks for the inspiration! xo

on to the link-up…  participating in the party is so easy!
here’s what to do:

1. follow the co-hosts on pinterest (links below)

paula from beauty through imperfection

becky from your modern family

gabrielle from MamaGab

me! kristi from klover house


2. pin our “pin-it party” picture. (one of these)

3. add as many of your great pins as you want!  remember to get your pins from pinterest & not from your blog page. it will make it easier to re-pin a pin instead of a post.

4. hop around and re-pin other pins from this page- lets share the love!

5. adding your link gives us permission to use an image from the pin (or post connected to the pin) to feature on next week’s pin-it party. because of this we ask that you only link up images from your own site, and images that you have taken, created or have legal rights to.

thanks!!!! REMEMBER: when it asks for your NAME, you can put your PIN NAME or your BLOG NAME. essentially, it’s your pin’s title.

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known by your fruit.

“thus by their fruit you will recognize them.” (Matthew 7)

You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh; rather, serve one another humbly in love. For the entire law is fulfilled in keeping this one command: β€œLove your neighbor as yourself.” If you bite and devour each other, watch out or you will be destroyed by each other.

So I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. For the flesh desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh. They are in conflict with each other, so that you are not to do whatever you want. But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law.

The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit. Let us not become conceited, provoking and envying each other.

Galatians 5:16-26

thank you for Your Word, Lord. please, please, let it resound in my heart EVERY MOMENT.

someone needs to say it

hello. i’m someone.

so, i’ll say it…

coming back to facebook has given me some mixed feelings. while i had close girlfriends who i rarely get to see or talk to in the real world asking me to return, i held off for a while, b/c honestly, social media is in a sense killing more than just the social life…

it’s destroying families, friendships, trust…

the internet has made even text messaging seem personal. what?!

remember those days when you said to your friend, “call me around 7,” & you could go about your night without the worry that a text or message was waiting for you, lingering, waiting…usually impatiently…

there was so much freedom in that.

now, if you don’t hear from someone within a “reasonable” time frame or fail to get back to someone yourself…you’re thrown into this cacophony of inner anxieties…”are they mad at me?” what did i do now?” “should i apologize for not being near my phone for the last 20 minutes?”

communication has turned into this…

unfortunately, along with adding pressure, insults to injury, social networking sites have also morphed into popularity contests these days.

another example…i’ve been on pinterest now since early august & i love it. you’re talking to a girl here who is hoarding every martha stewart living & domino magazine since 2004 in her garage & basement, much to her husband’s chagrin…sorry, hon.

but i love ideas – i’m not too proud to tell you that the dinner i prepared was inspired by this source or that, or that a craft i made is a knock-off of someone else’s amazingly creative mind. i admire people who share & never have had a problem sharing myself – that’s part of my drive behind this blog…

so anyway, pinterest was an answer to this magazine/idea hoarding professional’s wildest dreams…

see?!

now i can hoard online & finally let go of those boxes! yay! you’re welcome, hon!

but coming back around to the previous topic – even pinterest is now becoming a popularity contest & it’s so disappointing.

if you don’t actually talk in real life, why be upset if you don’t talk in cyber life?

likewise, if you don’t share similar interests…why follow each other’s boards on pinterest? it’s ok.

please, let me repeat…it’s ok.

if i am not following a board, it is not b/c i don’t like you or your ideas…it’s just that i’m using it as it was meant to be used…finding & collecting things that i like, that inspire me.

the only exception would probably be if we are super close & don’t share interests & i follow a board simply b/c i’m interested in knowing what interests you! (you can gather a ton of great gift ideas for people that way!)

those ladies that follow everyone they know & their mother, yet refuse to follow you in order to make some social statement…well…oh well, right?

so friends, let’s stop being cogs in the madness. let’s stop getting our feelings hurt. let’s see it all for what it really is…silly.

think about this one – the fact that so many other woman are posting the same quotes as you & me about being hurt, eliminating drama, the value of true friendships, the ridiculousness of fb, their need for God, “keep[ing] calm and…[insert anything & everything under the sun here],” proves that there are a million other people out there dealing with the exact same hurts, anxieties, cruelties, insecurities & fears. why are we doing that to one another?

i’ve saved those quotes, b/c reading them on hard days reminded me of that fact & also reminded me of this simple truth…

it seems there will always be women out there who just can’t stand other women for some reason they can’t even explain to themselves (luke 22:3) & there will always be those women that will squash your reputation at any cost b/c they refuse to let you “outshine” them…my advice…let them. who cares? i shine for Jesus, my husband, & my babies. anyone else is welcomed to think that i’m a washed-up, dull, boring housewife…

that’s why i’m choosing daily to care less about popularity & more about my identity…less about social media & more about my family…less about what anyone else thinks & more about me & what God has to say about me. i pray whole-heartedly that my precious daughters always do the same & are better at it than i try to be.

Take us the foxes, the little foxes, that spoil the vines.” Song of Solomon 2:15

read into that what you will, but as for me, i now know of the little foxes that are running amuck in my life & it’s time to reign them in & shoo them out…like me, some of you are all too familiar with the fact that it only takes one little fox to really set you back, bruise your ego, or hurt your heart sometimes, but even more importantly, it can take just one “little fox” to really distract you from growing in the Lord. {great article here btw}

Jesus tells us in John 15:5, “I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.” He is the vine & i am to be abiding in Him, yet i allow these little things to interfere with my walk…it’s my responsibility to get my priorities straight & be the person i need to be – not necessarily the person that satisfies my temporary emotions or one the world applauds by meeting the status quo in social media land.

an admirable woman of God i know encouraged me with these simple words, “you worry about how God sees your life & forget the rest.”

i’ll be relentlessly working on that one.

my “social goals” for 2012:

in regards to fb – a very close friend told me a little over a year ago when i asked her if she was going to post any new pics of her kiddos, “i don’t post too many, b/c those moments belong to me.” wow. more & more that is starting to feel like the right perspective for this mama. i love sharing stories about my girls & i enjoyed “documenting” nearly every moment not too long ago, but this recent “vacation” has given me the discipline i needed in order to be a lot more private with the preciousness of my life & the people in it…

now, on a lighter note – i’ll let you in on some other sites i’ve been playing with for a few months – you’ve probably heard of them, but if not…houzz (oh my) & polyvore, which is like paper dolls for people like me who would never spend $200 on a pair of blue jeans, $300 on a pair of boots & $1500 on a purse!

they’ve reaffirmed i am addicted to pretty things & would never make it as a decorator or stylist.

so anyway, go have fun…be kind, be sensible, & be real

β€œSo in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.” Matthew 7:12

xo,
kristi

holding steady.

i’ve been “sans facebook” for a while now – gosh it’s gotta be close to a month by now & i have to say i don’t miss it too much. i miss seeing my best girl friends’ comments & pics of their babies. i miss my fellow mama friends leaving me encouraging little tid bits & scriptures that zap me out of the “shallow end” & plop me back into the “what really matters” section of life.

yep. that’s about it.

i did notice that the blog took a hit at first. when i’d put my posts up on fb – i’d have over 50 hits in less than an hour. that number seemed to sink to a fraction, but as the time is ticking on, i’m realizing something…

it’s holding steady.

there are no major spikes – no fb frenzies…rather, i have a steady, consistent flow of visitors & when i really looked at the numbers, they haven’t dropped at all – they’re consistent.

just like the people in my life post-fb – consistent, faithful & still here.

so, thank you for your support & your interest in our lives.

i write these for three specific reasons…

1 – for my girls to read one day & further enjoy knowing my quirkiness, frustrations, epiphanies, struggles, messiness, happiness & especially, my joy over being their mom

2 – to put into words what i believe God speaks to my heart & to expose my thoughts in hopes that someone out there can relate

3 – to connect with other moms human beings that i may never have the opportunity to share a cup of coffee & chat with otherwise & friends that, thanks to modern technology, are never farther than my keyboard away…

so thanks again for stopping by…

see you again tomorrow.

xo

kristi

life sans facebook

i stumbled upon my official favorite post of the week. {read it here} it’s gonna be hard to top this one in my book, b/c it hit so close to home…it hit my heart.

as a matter of fact, it is pretty much the sole reason for my decision two fridays ago to deactivate my own facebook account. i’ve been on that thing for years…since it was for college students only. it has dramatically changed since then. now everyone from an elementary school aged child (ridiculous btw) to your grandma has become a social-networking junkie.

i was a junkie too. in the true sense – it’s addicting. period. deny it all you want, but when it started to affect my marriage, the scales fell from my eyes & i realized i liked facebooking more than i liked a lot of things – including sitting quietly on the couch next to my own husband. ridiculous.

there are so many good reasons to be a part of it – the links, the coupons, the ideas, the inspirational few that post encouraging words, but you know what? the bad began to creep in & suffocate the good out of it.

too often, i would log off with my heart literally racing or my stomach in my throat. grown women had turned it into a bad version of high school. no one is perfect & no one has it all together, all the time, but you would think so after spending 10 minutes on there. in a flash of new top stories, i could go from having a wonderful, productive day to feeling like the biggest loser on the block.

i know i’m not alone.

too often i would find myself thinking, “why does that person talk to them, but won’t comment on my stuff??” “i thought we were friends…” “so and so talks to me in real life, but won’t in facebook land.” ridiculous. all ridiculous.

but yet i was addicted to it. the drama…the stories…the fluffy status stuff that i knew was an embellishment anyway…

the only things keeping it afloat for awhile were those encouraging few who would have such a positive impact on my day. realizing that dropping facebook wasn’t dropping them…i quit cold turkey.

so here are some red flags i’d like to share. maybe it’s time for a facebook vacation for you too…

1 – if you have similar feelings – if people are intentionally, unintentionally, passive-aggressively affecting your life…take a vacation.

2 – if you find yourself looking to your friends (real or cyber) for advice more often than your spouse & the Lord…take a vacation.

3 – if you are literally crazed to know who’s doing what & where & with whom…take a vacation.

4 – if at least three sentences of your day’s conversations begin with the words, “i saw on facebook…” – take a vacation.

5 – when you accept that some things & some people are just plain ridiculous & you need to focus your time, energy & mental health to more productive “hobbies,” well…take a vacation!

if you’re still going to facebook after this…i understand – just make it a point not to be so snarky…

snarky…my favorite word of the week, also thanks to janae.

oh yeah & let that persona you hold online be the real you. she’s the one who really matters anyway.

that brings to mind numero seis…#6 – if facebook has become your go-to for validation of who you are as a woman…a Christian…a mother…a person…let it go. today. be free to be you all on your own & be proud of that person.