The changes are coming from three things: God, my children, and bedtime.
baths, pjs, stories, songs, prayers, hugs and kisses, *repeat* steps 5-7, and then *repeat* 6-7 on and off throughout the entire night.
1 – Establish a routine. This is just a given. Doesn’t really need to be elaborated on too much, because I’m sure you have one, and your pediatrician has emphasized the importance of it. Aside from the obvious benefits, I’d like to add that sticking to a routine speaks “I love you” to your child. It says, “I care about you, and I want you to not only develop healthy routines, but I also want you to know what to expect. I know that’s important for you as a little child in a world of uncertainty.” It gives your child a sense of control and security. Bedtime can be a vulnerable and scary time for a little one. My little Ava just asked me tonight, “Mommy, why do I sleep alone in here?” (“here” being her room, of course), and I went on to tell her about how I was little once before marrying her daddy, and I slept in a big girl bed all by myself too. I don’t like it one bit when my husband travels from time to time. I don’t like that big, empty bed. Imagine how your little person may feel. They need all of the security you can offer.
I think Colossians 3:12-17 speaks directly to mothering, especially when in the midst of trying moments:
Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.
Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful. Let the message of Christ dwell among you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom through psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit, singing to God with gratitude in your hearts. And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.